It’s hard bringing up children, even in the most perfect circumstances. But, nowadays, there are so many divergent “family units” that you have to learn to be flexible. It’s unusual in today’s environment for most people to stay married to the same partner all of their lives. So the odds are good that somewhere along the line you may end up bringing up stepchildren. Or, you may have children that will end up being raised by a stepparent. The focus of this article will be ways to help you adjust to your new role as step parent.
In cases where children have recently lost a parent, either because of death or because the parents separated, there will naturally be a sense of loss. Other times, the event of losing their biological parent may have occurred years ago or beyond their actual memories. Single moms and dads that suddenly have a significant other may cause emotional problems and challenges for their own children. The best rule of thumb is to not get in between arguments with the stepchildren and biological parent. Allow your spouse and the stepchildren to have time together, letting them slowly merge into you being in their life.
Becoming a step parent in a household with teens is going to be very different than adjusting in a home with smaller children. If this is the case, be ready to be ignored as most teenagers are not willing to accept their own biological parents at this point in time. This doesn’t mean, however, that you have no rights or responsibilities when it comes to limits and discipline. It is important that you enforce your right to have some type of recognition with the children much like a teacher or guardian would have in their presence. It is important to find a balance between being an authority figure and being their friend. Because these children are in their teenage years, they will more than likely never except you as a new parent of any kind.
Do not fret over whether or not you will ever develop a relationship with the step children as your main focus ought to be on the man or woman that you love. Your best bet as the new step parent is to play a secondary role, especially until the children have gotten used to you. Although you may never reach the actual role of being a parent, at least they will accept you more as time progresses. However, when the new family is still new, your main job is to support your partner and let them make the most important parental decisions. The stepchildren, your spouse, and yourself, all need to learn to adjust to one another in this new family format. Being a step parent is not something you can buy a book on and learn overnight; it is a process that must be experienced over time. Use the tips and strategies that we have provided to help you out in your new role, implementing them with your new role in the family. Over time, because children need to have a consistent father figure or mother figure in their lives, they will accept you once they are ready.
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